My friend Ms. Eleven Minutes did herself a favor. She bought the book It’s Called A Breakup Because Its Broken by the same author of He’s Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt , with Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt and lent it to me to read it first. For the past months, she has been my faithful companion as I was stuck in the post-breakup groove of anger, hurt, disappointment and resentment. It’s been going on longer than it should have, even I was getting weary of myself.
Actually, she did me a favor too. Because I keep forgetting to be consistently thankful to be the one who got away from a selfish, two-timing regrettable father of my child. May this “Smart Girl’s Breakup Buddy” be the powerful kick in the butt that I need to launch me into the new and much better life awaiting me that I so deserve (yeah, I do!).
The back cover by itself heralded great promise…
There’s no doubt about it – breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is. IT’S CALLED A BREAKUP BECAUSE IT’S BROKEN, and starting today, you’re not the kind of woman who settles for broken, or hangs on to damaged goods, be it a radio, a pair of shoes, or a relationship! It’s time to get rid of all the broken stuff you’ve been lugging around for days, months, and maybe even years, and make the bold decision to start looking for stuff that works. Because the longer you stay stuck in a dead-end relationship, the less time you get on this planet to experience a great one. So open up this book, and let’s dive in – our goal is to help you turn your breakup into the event that changes your life for the better in ways you never dreamed possible. It’s not an end, it’s a beginning! After all…
YOU ARE A SUPERFOX.
Here I go again doing a review while I haven’t yet finished the book… Reading just the introductions and the first chapter, my mind is filled with quotable quotes I want to imprint in my mind, put in post-it notes to cover my whole desk and dresser to remind me every minute of every day.
Here are some of the gems of breakup wisdom….
Breakups hurt like a mother*#ker, but they are not the end of the world.
Being brokenhearted is like having broken ribs. On the outside it looks like nothing’s wrong, but every breath hurts.
For whatever reason, getting over this guy took forever. He was my kryptonite. And like Superman, I was powerless in his wake. But if you’ve seen the movies, you know that Superman always figures out a way to overcome kryptonite.
Now, defeating kryptonite and getting over a broken heart is incredibly tough… But the even bigger victory is finally living your own life again without the constant presence of heartache.
It’s like my Granny always said: “Even with all the mayonnaise in the world, you can’t make chicken salad out of chicken shit.” Feel free to apply that wisdom to your bad relationship.
The harsh reality is that even if you have everything else in common, the one thing you don’t have in common is the belief that this relationship can work.
People come together and move apart. It’s the age-old ebb and flow of relationships.
We become attached to what’s familiar and sometimes we hold on to things that are safe and predictable even if they’re bad for us.
Ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch! I’m black and blue already, just into page 25! I can see the light at the end of the tunnel… Could it be the start of my new, definitely better life in sight? I’ll keep you posted.
I am a SUPERFOX… I am, I am!