For some reason I just feel sad when I shouldn’t.
Today is the best part of the rare long weekend and I had a wonderful bonding moment with my favorite girl. On a day confused if it wanted to rain or not, off we went to the mall to have her enrolled at play school. We than had choco & milk toast and iced tea, then a lot of ice cream that we could handle.
While trying yet failing to finish the ice cream, the thought intruded that it would have been wonderful to have that person missing in this family to have been there to help finish the ice cream. It was truly enjoyable seeing my girl enjoying herself, dancing to the music video inside the ice cream shop where we were the lone occupants. Then that thought had to snatch the completeness of the moment.
And so here I am, moping and trying but failing to be happy. Siiiigh…
Funny how Facebook seems to be trying to shake me off this melancholic stupor, with these various wall feeds:
- APPRECIATE life itself even if it’s NOT perfect. CONTENTMENT is NOT fulfillment of what you wish for, but an APPRECIATION of what you have.
- “To heal our wounds, we need courage to face them.” ~ Paulo Coelho
- We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Alfred D Souza said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time … and remember that time waits for no one…
So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy…
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Thought for the day :
Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.
Author: Crystal Boyd , 1998. From the book: “Midnight Muse.”
Good for me it seems to be working… These social networking sites seem to have a purpose after all, aside from wasting time & exposing all your info. 🙂